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Helen's avatar

"Students have incompletely developed frontal lobes.  Expecting exquisite judgment or highly developed impulse control is unrealistic and unfair." Yes. As I get older, I've come to better appreciate my parents' simple wisdom involving young people. When hearing about some offense committed by a young person growing up on my block, (some of which were serious in the eyes of the law) my dad would say with a sigh, "dopey kid." It was said with compassion for the youngster, and the parents. My mom's response would be an understanding and forgiving "sono giovani" (they are young.) I find I am quoting them both more and more often as I get closer to the end of my teaching career. During my students' more mischievous and rascally moments, "sono giovani" works well. During the more serious moments of poor judgement, "dopey kid" helps me to keep a more gentle and loving perspective on their not fully developed frontal lobes. You always kept that perspective, Steve, even when the other adults were having a hard time with it. Albeit a little late, thanks!

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Dienne's avatar

I have very mixed feelings. Yes, off-campus events do impact in-school matters and school officials have to have some say so. But then I think about the recent case where a nine-year-old was suspended because his teacher saw a BB gun in his room during remote schooling

You're coming at this from a progressive school view (my kids also go to progressive school) where you had the opportunity to get to know all the kids and their families and you can think through individual situations. Public schools, especially ones that deal with many hundreds or even thousands of kids, just tend to have blanket rules whether they make sense in any given situation or not (like bringing a weapon "to school" when "school" is one's own bedroom).

I appreciate your distinction between addressing a problem and punishing it, but, sadly, public schools often don't make that distinction. Most run on some form of behavior modification like PBIS that just operates like a checklist of behaviors and subsequent mandatory consequences. Unfortunately, the Supreme Court can't mandate that schools think.

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